Thought Questions

I like that blog. I don’t always answer the questions so I thought that I could choose some and write my answers here.

#495 Do you drink tap water ? Why ?

Yes I do. I don’t see why not. No plastic bottles, no contracts with water companies to deliver bottles for a machine that takes up space, it’s free. Montreal’s water is clean and tap water is free. I might buy a Brita eventually but it’s still tap water.

#496 What is the best job in the world ?

I won’t say mother because it wouldn’t be true. It can’t be the best job if you always worry and argue with your teens, if your hands are covered in shit and your shirts in puke. Being a mom isn’t the best job even with all the benefits like smiles and hugs and unconditional love (until they are 10).I want to be a mom but it has nothing to do with being the best job.

To me, the best job is a job where I am alone at times, I’m free to make decisions, I’m allowed my autonomy and I’m paid well. I also have to be one of the few to do it. The very best job would include my own phone line, an office with a closing door and free coffee. Ain’t gonna happen. But hey, we are talking about the BEST job.

#494 What is the most difficult question you have had to answer ?

A friend I had used to ask me if I was happy. I couldn’t say yes or no. I would think « what does happiness have to do with anything?! ». Of course, now, I can say yes and have been able to say yes for quite some time.

#493 What is something that you would hate to go without for a day ?

Food and drink. I was thinking about my boyfriend’s hugs but food and drink comes higher. They answer basic needs. Without it I can’t function.

#489 If you were garanteed an honest response to one question, whom would you question, and what would you ask them ?

I would question my mom and I would ask : « Could you please tell me what you were talking about when you said you had lived incest without hiding who has done this ? »

Thought Question 390 : Do you think your parents brought you up right ?

I put that blog in my RSS and lately I have been neglecting my RSS reader. I have been tired (I almost slept 12 hours friday night and staurday night) and I have been preoccupied with…The Good Wife. So this morning, I decided to use one of the questions to prompt a bit of writing.

No. I don’t think my parents brought me up right. But yes they did.

It depends on what I look at. Of course, this is going to look like I blame them for everything. I do. But then I didn’t stop there, I changed things. Isn’t what growing up is all about ? Moving on, forging ahead, creating the life one wants ?

Nobody’s life is perfect, right? Mine certainly wasn’t and my parents gave me what they had which isn’t that much if I look at it carefully. Slaps behind the head, control issues, alcoholism, muteness about what’s important. It all affected me and it all gave me the message that it’s better to slap someone when that person doesn’t live up to your expectations or if that person defies you…or shut up and drink if you are so mad and you can’t talk. Violence is a lack of words. My family is really super good at talking about nothing. It’s boring. I think that the only real talk we had, my mom and I, was about sex.

I had to wait to go in therapy to talk about what really bothered me, about all that was stuck inside me and I couldn’t get out. When reality is too difficult for me, and all I have learned is to act like everything is fine…it is really stretching the fabric of reality and stretching the mind and memory…I have to make everything fit so I forget things. Exactly like my mom.

So my life up to a few years back was about forgetting, shutting up and being mad. As a child it was also about being so mad and having no control and getting into fights.

However, my mom loved me. Badly but she still did. I can’t say the same about my biodad. Loving me brought me up better. Kind of.

My mom is curious and I am the same way. She loves to read and so do I. Everything I lacked I took from my books. Books brought me up better and friends also helped.

My mom showed me that people do change sometimes. Not always in the way I would like but they do change. For example, my mom is never going to stop drinking. But she became a bit more honest about herself. And I put clear boundaries that she tries not to cross.She showed me it is good to celebrate, she loves to party. I prefer celebrating every birthday as the conquest of another year. She loves food and every meal was a battle because I didn’t like food but now that I’m grown up, I love food. Superficial stuff.

My parents didn’t bring me up quite right but they sure showed me how not to be.

Five Questions Friday

1. Do you open presents on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day?
It depends on where we are on Christmas eve and Christmas day. My boyfriend and I open our presents before if we are away at Christmas.

2. What is your favorite Christmas cookie (or candy)?
I have just discovered bacon cookies and you bet I’m going to make them a Christmas tradition.

3. What’s the worst Christmas gift you’ve ever received?
Knives and a cookbook while I was in depression. I had suicidal tendencies and I had no appetite. BRA-VO as we say here. What were they thinking ?!

4. Christmas song that you love?
I honestly don’t know. At the moment, I’m listening to Glee’s Christmas album.

5. How many trees do you put up?
None. Does two geraniums count ?

 

 

Five Questions Friday

 

1. If you could have any talent and turn it into an occupation, what would it be?

I would be a medium. I went to see one a couple of years ago and she told me I had it in me. I think I do have bursts of whatever it’s called and know before things happen that they will and I have predicted some relationships to happen and to unravel. Is it because of this supposed talent ? Probably not. Would I like to have this talent ? You betcha. 🙂 I would scare the crap out of people and make them be with someone who fits. I would predict my parent’s death so they change the way they live. Hehehe Yes. I know. It is manipulation. Don’t blame me ! Blame my mom who said she would never, NEVEEEEEER, stop drinking and my biodad who hasn’t stopped even if he lost his driving license.

2. Would you rather have a house at the beach or a cabin in the woods?

Hmmmm…a house in the woods besides a beach ?

3. Is there any meaning or reasoning for the names you chose for your child/children?

I don’t have kids yet. But yes there is a reasoning. If the name was good enough for older genrations, why settle for Opal, Jade, Obiwan or Voldemort ? I like old-fashioned, solid and dignified names such as Marie-Antoinette-Sophie de Pompadour. How about that ? Or Charles IV of the House of Montreal.
I like anglo names and I like names from Lucy maud Montgomery’s novels. Jane, Anne, Emily. For boys, I like Matthew, William, Charles. I like Maël that can be Maëlle for a girl.

4. What is your guilty pleasure? (I know we’ve done this one before, but I’m guessing people’s « guilty pleasures » change frequently. At least, mine do!)

My guilty pleasures…
  • Chocolate milk in my coffee
  • Skinny caramel latte from Starbucks
  • Buying magazines. I enter the magazine store every week to see what’s new.
  • Chocolate. Fancy chocolate, québécois chocolate. Yummm.
  • Reading on the cardio machine for 20 minutes instead of going like a maniac while staring at the screen or the wall for 10.
  • Buying stuff not in special !
  • Watching « Raising Hope »

5. Do you live in a house that is deep cleaned or straightened?

Wouahahaha !! I try but it has never been this way since I started living with my boyfriend. When I’m rich (after I finish paying my stupid braces in, like, a gazillion years) I hire a cleaning lady. I will do the straightening out of the house, the dishes, the clothes washing but the rest will be hers ! That way I don’t have to remind my boyfriend to vaccuum and I don’t have to feel like I’m doing everything alone (which is untrue but feels like it because we never clean at the same time).

Late Booking Through Thursday

I am many days late for this post. During my vacation I have been lazy with my blog !

1. Favorite childhood book?
Anne of Green Gables, duh. 🙂

2. What are you reading right now?
I will start reading James Patterson’s 9th Judgment today.

3. What books do you have on request at the library?
Private by Patterson, The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake, Shakespeare’s Champion, Shiver.

4. Bad book habit?
Returning my library books late.

5. What do you currently have checked out at the library?
Too many books to list them.

6. Do you have an e-reader?

Not interested.

7. Do you prefer to read one book at a time, or several at once?
It is not a preference. I don’t want to bring a book I have almost finished in the metro in case I have nothing else to read so I start a new one.

8. Have your reading habits changed since starting a blog?
I sometimes post what I read.

9. Least favorite book you read this year (so far?)
More than one.

10. Favorite book you’ve read this year?
All the Sookie books.

11. How often do you read out of your comfort zone?
Not enough.

12. What is your reading comfort zone?
Kids books, YA, mystery novels, chick lit, cookbooks, sci-fi.

13. Can you read on the bus?
Yes

14. Favorite place to read?
The metro

15. What is your policy on book lending?
I lend it and I ask for the book back.

16. Do you ever dog-ear books?
Yes

17. Do you ever write in the margins of your books?
No

18.  Not even with text books?
It depends of what I’m reading and if I have paper with me.

19. What is your favorite language to read in?
French books should be read in French, same with English. I don’t like bad translations.

20. What makes you love a book?
When I have fun reading it or if I’m totally swept by emotion.

21. What will inspire you to recommend a book?
If I know the person well enough, I will recommend the right books.

22. Favorite genre?
Don’t have one.

23. Genre you rarely read (but wish you did?)
Classics. I used to read them a lot growing up but I don’t anymore.

Favorite biography?
Don’t remember.

25. Have you ever read a self-help book?
Of course !

26. Favorite cookbook?
Mrs Field’s Cookies, Cuisiner au goût du coeur, Eat-Clean Diet

27. Most inspirational book you’ve read this year (fiction or non-fiction)?
The Red Paperclip

28. Favorite reading snack?

None

29. Name a case in which hype ruined your reading experience.
La Vie de Pi, so not worth it.

30. How often do you agree with critics about a book?
I don’t read critics.

31. How do you feel about giving bad/negative reviews?
I don’t care. If I don’t like a book I feel I have the right to say so. It’s subjective.

32. If you could read in a foreign language, which language would you chose?
Chinese, maybe.

33. Most intimidating book you’ve ever read?
A.S. Byatt, can’t finish the books.

34. Most intimidating book you’re too nervous to begin?
Don’t know

35. Favorite Poet?
Louise Labé

36. How many books do you usually have checked out of the library at any given time?
10

37. How often have you returned book to the library unread?
Regularly

38. Favorite fictional character?
Anne Shirley

39. Favorite fictional villain?
Don’t know

40. Books I’m most likely to bring on vacation?
Books I own in paperback.

41. The longest I’ve gone without reading.
One day, maybe.

42. Name a book that you could/would not finish.
Too many !

43. What distracts you easily when you’re reading?
Cooking, my boyfriend, loud voices in the metro.

44. Favorite film adaptation of a novel?
Anne of Green Gables

45. Most disappointing film adaptation?
Meyer’s books

46. The most money I’ve ever spent in the bookstore at one time?
200$

47. How often do you skim a book before reading it?
All the time…unless I already know I want it.

48. What would cause you to stop reading a book half-way through?
Being bored by the book

49. Do you like to keep your books organized?
Yes

50. Do you prefer to keep books or give them away once you’ve read them?
If I love the book I keep it. If I know I won’t read it again, I sell it. If it is not « sellable » I give it.

51. Are there any books you’ve been avoiding?
Fantasy, Harlequin romances, Danielle Steel…

52. Name a book that made you angry.
Lovely Bones

53. A book you didn’t expect to like but did?
Janet Evanovich’s One for the Money

54. A book that you expected to like but didn’t?
Sense and Sensibility and Sea Monsters

55. Favorite guilt-free, pleasure reading?
Everything