Dans la dernière année, quelle a été ma plus grosse erreur? Quelle leçon en ai-je tirée?

Vu que je ne me tape pas sur la tête…je ne sais pas. Est-ce que j’ai fait une ou des erreurs ?

AH OUI!! Toute mon histoire avec cette amie que j’ai dû flusher.

Quelle leçon en ai-je tirée ?

  1. Je dois prendre mon temps avant de tomber cul par-dessus tête pour une nouvelle amie. Avant de lui donner mon temps, de l’énergie, de lui raconter mes affaires.
  2. Je dois regarder les drapeaux rouges.
  3. Je dois examiner ce qui m’attire chez elle et me demander pourquoi elle est attirée par moi.

J’ai encore peur de la croiser quand je me promène. Mais, c’est comme si elle avait disparu !

 

Occupée

Les derniers jours, j’ai été occupée à préparer le souper de hier soir.

J-L et moi avons reçu son meilleur ami et ma nouvelle amie pour souper. C’était super le fun !

Jeudi j’ai été au gym et à l’épicerie ensuite. Puis, j’ai cuisiné des tartelettes aux pacanes.

J-L a fait le shopping hier et quand je suis revenue du travail, j’ai cuisiné pour le souper !

Les invités sont partis vers 23:30. J’avais mal à la tête depuis un p’tit bout. Ils sont partis ensemble…j’espère que le souper a fait sa job… 🙂

Should go to bed

Today I went at the zumba open house at BambooFit on St-Laurent street. There were maybe 50 women…and one guy. It was very intense and fun. There were 4 instructors and they exchanged places so I got a taste of what each one is like. I might take a card and go regularly.

I was there for a Meetup but the woman that organized it didn’t show because of work and I didn’t even know what the others looked like. I went in anyway. Tsk. Dire que je ne voulais pas y aller toute seule. After 15 minutes I already made contact with someone else doing it alone. I should have taken her name, I know she is going to go back. At the end of the class, another Meetup woman found me. Every time she talked it sounded like she was trying hard to be blasé but to impress me. I am not too impressed with people doing spinning and finding it intensive and burning 700 calories. Ben oui I replied. I have done classes of spinning. Not much but enough to know it’s intensive but not impressive. I am not impressed by people telling me they can’t keep their hair in a poneytail under a bike helmet. Duh.I replied Ben non. Re-duh.

I have done enough translating for the day. I am translating a professional blog from French to English. Biggest questions today were do I need to translate the regions’ names or only the provinces’ names ? And where the heck is that post I had translated about our professional tasks ? No way I am doing that again. Copy-paste is my friend.

I am tired. It has been a while since I did zumba. I’m spent. Time to go to bed.

Lundi reconnaissant

  1. Je suis en route vers Québec…
  2. En train…
  3. Avec ma meilleure amie !
  4. Pendant mes vacances, j’ai rencontré C. avec qui je me suis bien entendue.
  5. J’ai passé deux jours chez mes parents sans trop de problèmes…
  6. La bouffe était bonne…
  7. J’ai vu ma grand-mère…
  8. Et j’ai peut-être trouvé la résidence de mes rêves. 🙂
  9. J’ai réussi à tailler mes haies de fines herbes…
  10. Ça m’a permis de faire du super bon pesto ! Basilic, sauge et menthe, avec les recettes de Josée di Stasio.

Self interview

Hello

Hello

What’s up ?

Not much

Really ? Why isn’t the August Icomleavwe badge on your blog ?

Last month I barely had time to comment and it made me feel disappointed about myself and this month I will be gone for 4 days during the Icomleavwe week. I can’t make all the comments in the few days left.

Where are you going ?

I’m going to Québec with C.

How is she doing ?

I wouldn’t know. I haven’t seen her in a while. She has an insane schedule at work and she’s looking for another job and she has a boyfriend.

You are rationalizing, aren’t you ?

Yes.

Why?

Because I’m angry that she does that all the time. And I know I’m unfair about it. She really is busy and really has no time.

What makes you so angry then ?

It’s always the same thing. I have to call her or ask her to do something. Since she has a boyfriend, I feel like she waits for him by the phone (which she doesn’t) and I’m always last. I hate it. When I talk to her about it she says she will do better, she will ask me to do stuff. But she doesn’t. My rationalization is what makes me wait for her. Patiently.

Although your patience is nearing its limits.

Yes

What are you doing about it ?

I’m hoping our vacation will bring us closer together and I have started a friend quest.

Friend quest ?

Yes. I am trying to see if looking for friends is the same thing as looking for a boyfriend. Can I apply the same strategies ?

Can you ?

That’s what I am examining. I have registered on web sites and have started going to activities. I think that I am not making real friends at work, my rela life friends are busy with boyfriends and babies. I’m not making friends at the gym either, I’m concentrating on my weights. So maybe activities that I like will attract other people who like that too.

What activities ?

I have been to breakfast at Cora’s and I have been to the Ceramic café. This was done with the first website I registered at. I used Meetup as well as suggested by Elizabeth. This afternoon I am going to a drawing class.Another web site I registered with is for women only and I have not RSVPd to any activities yet because my schedule is full. I’m waiting for Fall.

Have you met interesting people ?

At breakfast no. One guy I already knew but the other one was weird (he kept looking at my décolleté and he talked too loud, he had no social skills, he even started reading the newspaper before the meeting was concluded). At the ceramic café I met a French woman vacationing here and she was quite nice. Very calm. We had moments of silence while we did our ceramic painting and we talked about men, our exes and all that. It was nice. She is coming to my eating cupcakes activity next week. Too bad she is going back to France at the end of the month.

Do you feel like it’s online dating ?

The weird guy made me feel this way and this other website I was using. I deleted my account this morning because everyone was called a friend on the website but it felt like an online dating service and I had only one woman send me an email. Only men voted on my profile or picture. Blargh.

So you are going to a drawing class today ?

Yep. I have to buy a drawing pad, I haven’t used one in years but I still have my charcoal pen. It’s a model class with vin et fromages. Relaxed. I hope I can go.

Why ?

I have blisters under my two feet near the toes. I walked too much with new flipflops that looked very promising. I should stick to what’s known and trusted : Crocs.

Ouch. Why didn’t you buy Crocs this time ?

I went to the store on Ste-Catherine and they didn’t have flipflops anymore. So I bought two pairs (2?!) at the massotherapy place I went to this week. I shouldn’t have…

Sites de rencontre pour amis ?

Hier, je me suis inscrite sur un site de rencontre d’amitié. Ça fais vraiment weird. En plus, deux hommes ont voté sur mon profil. Évidemment, ils sont Tunisien et Algérien. C’est un site avec des gens de partout.

Comme dans ma démarche pour rencontrer un homme, je suis pas mal claire dans ce que je veux ou pas.

Ma liste de l’amie idéale va me guider. Un idéal, ça veut dire « si tout était parfait et que je pouvais avoir exactement ce que je veux ». On sait que ça ne se peut pas ! Mais, ça aide à garder les yeux ouverts.

Puis, à 35 ans, avec tout le ménage que j’ai fait dans ma vie, il faut que je me fasse d’autres amies ! Des amies qui conviennent à la vie que j’ai maintenant.

J’ai créé des sorties sur un autre site web et ma première sortie disait clairement que c’était une sortie de filles…ben les administrateurs du site l’ont annulée ! Ça se peux-tu. Alors j’ai décidé de créer un 5 à 7 dans un bar à cocktail, une sortie pour essayer le zumba et je vais en créer une pour les cupcakes. Pas très gars comme sortie. Un gars s’est quand même inscrit au zumba hier soir. Il a dû aller voir les vidéos de zumba que j’ai suggéré parce qu’il s’est désinscrit. 🙂