I have done it again. There is no « oups » to this. I don’t know how I manage to do it. Am I lucky, unlucky or is a talent, a curse. After a few emails (3 or 4) the guy is sure we are meant to be together while I am convinced he is not the one for me.
No personal emails exchange, no phone calls, no kinky stuff. Just ordinary emails. And I wonder what it is I do to have that kind of effect. Is it me or is it just immaturity from that guy ? He claims to know me and attributes values, emotions to me that I haven’t talked about.
Maybe it’s just the « Elastic ». There is a theory, I think it comes from Mars & Venus, that says that when someone gets really close to someone else, that person gets away. If you take some distance, the person will come running after you. The elastic is loose, then tightens, then looses up again, etc.
Maybe it’s really appealing to guys that I am not desperate to meet the man of my life. I’m just taking my sweet time. Maybe the guys that write to me are very imaginative and lose touch with reality. I mean, come on, it’s online dating ! Huge possibilities for lying or hidden truths and fiction.
How well can you know someone after a couple of winks and a few 150 characters messages ? And after 3 or 4 emails ? It takes years to really know someone. I don’t understand how you can get attached to someone after a few lines.
I guess I could appear as cold. But I don’t see the point in getting romantic about stories. If the stories are very interesting, then we move along.
My elastic is very tight. And I’m moving away and away. Especially about reading « come on, give me a chance, you won’t regret it ». I’m sorry that he is sad about it, angry or feels betrayed. But I’m just not that into a 23 year-old guy, living at home, studying for years to come. It would be a move in reverse. That I would do if I was desperate for company and light fun.
But lately, light fun and company are not that interesting.